Today I needed to stop in at Staples, which is on Columbus Boulevard, until recently an industrial and big box retail zone devoid of all charm. But now, just beyond, lies a trail into the woods and a park, on the pier.


The DRWC does great things. But what really gets me are the piers that haven't had the park treatment. Majestic in their return to nature. Sort of.
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10/4 '14 3 Comments
Nice! I'll have to remember to come with my camera the next time I drive into town.
Definitely a good place to bring a camera.
I love discovering those little connections to pretty spaces. Thanks for the photos!
 

For those just tuning in, I requested songwriting challenges, and I got a lot of them.

Where's your song? I'm working on it!

It seems that when you haven't picked up your guitar in five and a half years, you forget stuff! Who wouldathunkit?

Also, I'm finding my own standards are a little higher.

So I'm picking up the guitar every day, and having a bash, and trying new things, and waiting for the songs to start crystallizing.

One thing I've figured out is that I'm not going to just start at the top of the list and blast my way down this time. Nope, I gotta start with some of the more accessible requests and rebuild my groove.

Thanks for engaging my brain!


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10/4 '14 3 Comments
Gee, Tom. I am disappoint that you haven't written, recorded, and posted 20+ songs in 2 days. For free. You don't do enough for us. When will you start giving to the community?

tee hee :)

srsly: I'm happy there will be more Boutellian music on the planet someday.
My aunt called me let month and asked if I'd play my guitar at her aunt's birthday party. For me, it's only been two years, but it's long enough. I wasn't sure I'd remember how tom play any of the chords, let alone remember how to play anything in my old repertoire. She got me practicing. It feels so good to have a few things to groove on again.
 
 

Years ago, when I was getting almost tolerable on the guitar, I threw down the gauntlet and asked for songwriting challenges. The result was the most interesting stuff I ever did, musically. And then I got distracted by dance. Which I do not regret in the least. But I'm ready to try music again.

So! Here's how this goes.

Please reply with:

An object ("a toaster")

A character ("a flying piano teacher")

A catchphrase ("that's GOTTA hurt")

A rock/pop musical subgenre ("emo punk," "new wave," etc - if you think it's obscure, just cite an example I have some hope of knowing or finding, links help)

... And I'll compose and record a song featuring these items. It may take me a while, but I will eventually get to an album's worth of requests.

BRING IT!


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9/30 '14 21 Comments
A lego brick, a karate student, "any side street", rockabilly
"Any side street" is probably an obscure catchphrase, but I use it a lot. It's from Bill Cosby's "200 MPH".
Trampoline, a translator, "Further up and further in", power pop.
AAA batteries, a cliff diver, "there's got to be a better way", Hootie-and-the-Blowfish-style frat rock
You said bring it.
Here it is.
Anita Sarkeesian, a misogynist, "not all men", math rock.
Anita Sarkeesian is the object?
Yes, I was just thinking I should clarify that. Thanks.
Wow, writing that in a non-asshole way that is still entertaining IS a challenge.
I would like to see the results of this one in particular. ;)
I'm also looking forward to the results of this challenge.
Object: a Rubik's Cube
Character: an extra in a Wes Anderson movie
Catchphrase: "And that's the end of that chapter."
Genre: Garage Rock
A glockenspiel, the majorette, "could it be love?" (Alternatively, "Oom pa pa, baby!")
Object: The Rosetta Stone
Character: Dunkin' Donuts employee
Catchphrase: She thought she'd seen everything
Oh - genre - prog rock. You know, like Tull and Joe Trainor.
Trailer park; neighbors; "it never ends". This sounds like it should be a country song, perhaps? Your choice.
Note to self: "desire is a random number"
Object: A vat of whipped cream
Character: Arnold Schwarzenegger from "Kindergarten Cop"
Catchphrase: "Tippecanoe and Tyler too"
Genre: Death metal
Pierogi, recently freed convict, "always room for one more," jangly Emo Britpop (ie., Smiths miserable lyrics plus happy guitar music)
I really like this challenge.
The Black Canyon of the Gunnison in Colorado
A Rock climber - who dislike bolts--a traditional or "clean" climber
"It's just you and the rock"
classic rock - late 60's or early 80's

Oh, that's going to be fun.
 

It is safe to assume it:
We will consume it.
The moon, the sea, the mountain. "Too soon,"
We'll cry, and sing a mournful tune,
And hold an observance, and soon resume.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.

It will do you no good to lament it.
In the time you strive to prevent it,
Disrupt, resent and reinvent it,
A new need emerges and brooks no dissent.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.

That's a bit dire. That's a bit strong.
The time remaining may be very long
As reckoned by Romans or roaches or cats.
We are clever creatures. As clever as rats.
But there are no guarantees, for all of that.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.

Eventually the stars will go.
The planets and the asteroids. Slow
Streamers of the solar wind blow
Outwards, carrying uranium
And other heavy elements to tantalize the cranium
Of our successors. Need I explain?
Be good to each other in the time remaining.

Don't cry for the sun, little one.
You will long since be cold and done,
Along with the idea of the idea of remorse.
And even irony will run its course.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.
Be good to each other in the time remaining.

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9/29 '14 5 Comments
I like this. Happy you-day.
I need to reply again to really drive home how much I really love this.
Really.
Really really.

Mind if I x-post it elsewhere, with proper attribution of course?
I am deeply moved by this. Thank you, sir.
Happy Birthday-- I'm happy to share a planet with you.
Goddamn!

As has been said before: "The future is uncertain, and the end is always near!"

What gives me hope is that the stuff Twain was writing about a century ago adequately explains (or uncannily describes) American culture and actions today: little has changed, yet we survive.
 

Hmm.

There were wonderful teachers, like our choral director Gordon Adams, who definitely got more than one kid through those four years, compromising with punk rockers on the performance dress code ("you can wear your boots if you wear the suit") and taking heat from the administration over it.

But high school wasn't so bad honestly. My peers matured a lot when we all hit the ninth grade and merged with another school. I made lasting friends and did nerdy and less-nerdy things with impunity. Hell, I lettered in cross country.

Before that, though, I was public enemy number one. Yep, from the day I arrived in town in the fourth grade and said, "hey! have you guys heard about the gas crunch?"

Yes, I was that kid: full of adult knowledge and words, and hopelessly socially unskilled.

I was verbally, though not physically, pummeled for the ensuing five years. I had no friends that lasted; as soon as someone warned them I wasn't cool, they got the hell away from Toxic Boy.

So I have to give props to my mom, who said:

"Adults are going to tell you these are the best years of your life. Don't listen to them. I remember being your age. It was terrible."

Mom was on the "It Gets Better" train before it was cool.

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9/26 '14 7 Comments
Gordon Adams even allowed quasi-transvestism in his choir, bless him! Definitely got me through high school.
I had frenemies. "Mean Girls" is a good approximation. I got myself through, with a healthy dose of Star Trek. And then I was free, and I met folks like Patch and the whole HamFam group... good times.
I started to answer this, and it was turning into a long wordy reflection of high school post. I'll save it for a OPW entry of my own . .. but in short: no one got me through high school. I was oblivious introvert not realizing I should be hurt or that I should socially want more, biding my time till college. Mom and my nature instilled this tendency, but I highly recommend obliviousness as a coping mechanism. Also, oddly, CTY - that summer camp for talented youth - gave me something to hold onto reminding me that there is life outside smalltown Delaware for ducks like me. quack.
I tried to reply to this, and... well, deleted it. Still not ready after 30ish years, I guess. Exciting times, though.
Yeah, it's heavy stuff.
1. Props to Mom. That's pretty awesome.
2. When in Detroit, I too was the social lepper. Got beat up a LOT until I met Mike Sowa in our mutual study hall. Giant of a guy (made me look small) and as nice as they come. Still remember being surrounded by bullies in the hall until Mike walked up and simply said "Problem Matt?" and I watched as the bullies scattered like cockroaches.
3. When I moved to PA, I...had no such problems. Other problems cropped up (it WAS high school), but my friends got me through. I got really lucky in that department. Mark, you know, and you've probably met most of the others over the years because we've got quality friendships to this day. Yeah. Really damn lucky.

(Thanks for posting this and giving me an excuse to respond - in depth.)
I tell my students that high school is the toll you have to pay to get to college.
 
I've had a series of late nights due to crises domestic and otherwise. Tonight? Things are okay! Knock on wood!

Tonight I am going to... Sleep! Aw hell yeah. And you can sleep with me! At the same time, that is.
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9/26 '14 2 Comments
I have been run fairly ragged. The punch line is I'm on vacation this week. Ha ha.
Dude! I don't think so, UCLA at ASU is only in the first quarter.
 

I don't like to spend my post for the day talking about the site itself, which sort of misses the point. But privacy is exceedingly important, and today I spoke cavalierly about it in a way that rebounded on me. As well it should have.

Other sites have been through some nasty issues around privacy lately. I am not bulletproof and need to take it at least as seriously. Especially with an audience of people who take it very seriously.

So what happened today? Nothing to do with the code or the privacy of your posts, I'm relieved to say. Just a dumb, dumb personal screwup in which I casually warned a friend (hopefully still a friend) that they had posted publicly. Because I wasn't paying enough attention to see that they hadn't.

"Tom that is totally ridiculous, you built this site! You know how it works, you coded it!" Yes it is totally ridiculous and I have no adequate explanation for my behavior. My inadequate explanation, if you care to hear it, is that I was rushing around doing way too damn much this evening and didn't think through what I was doing. I was not in programmer mode, I was in friend mode, and I was doing a crappy job of it.

However, learning from my dipshit mistakes— and owning my own frailties— is important. I'm thinking it's not enough to show a "this post is public" warning only when someone clicks reply.

I think there should be a lock icon visible to everyone who can read the post. If it ain't there, it's public. No ambiguity.

Although, obviously, it should not offer any details about exactly who is allowed to read it (except to the author), everyone reading a post should be able to tell instantly if it is public or not.

I will be working on this promptly. I will also be reviewing the steps I'm taking to secure the server against attack. If the server itself is compromised, everything else is a moot point. We do not actually know if this has ever happened to other social networks. We can only take their word for it.

This experience brought me up short and made me realize that while we haven't had an actual security breach yet, we will if I don't treat privacy as job one. I will be giving it an appropriate level of attention in future.

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9/25 '14 16 Comments
Hmm, that doesn't seem like a "dip-shit" level error. It seems like a rushing around doing too many things error.
Fix your pronouns, please.
I trust you entirely.
I also know never to type anything you wouldn't want to have your mom hear when read aloud as evidence in a courtroom... especially typing said things into a site that's still in beta. ;)

Loose lips sink ships, etc.

In other news, would it make sense to make an account called 'News' or 'Admin' or 'HolyCrap' that everyone is automatically subscribed to, so users can get info about site updates, etc. without you spending your one post?
I personally vote for HolyCrap.
I second the Holy Crap motion.
Thirded.
+1 for the "beta" comment. We all know that the site is still in its infancy and hey, we're the the testers. Shit happens and you stood up and said something, apologized, and are taking steps to correct it. It's a lesson learned and will make the site better in the future.

Sounds like an honest mistake. Telling someone "your post is public" when it's not is a _lot_ less damaging than telling someone their post is private when it isn't. (Or at least that's how I'm reading it, feel free to correct me.)
If I may put in a vote: Adding the lock icon is not a bad idea, but I would ask to keep the 'this post is public'. I actually took note of that (and still regularly do) which is uncommon for me. I think it's a real help exactly where it is.
Yes, I don't see any reason not to have that. But I think I need to address my confusion earlier today, which stemmed from *not* seeing something. When a post is locked you see... no indicator. That's not good.
You speak with The Logic.
Thanks. I don't feel so logical tonight, I feel like a dipshit. Hoping this is one of those Learning Experiences we are occasionally offered with relatively little damage beyond the ego, but we'll see.
Well, while you're not perfect (none of us are). I would argue you're pretty far from dip-shit. Have been as long as I've known you.
Thanks man.
You are the furthest from dip-shit.
And I see you've already added the icons. Nice (and fast) work!
 

"I'm sore as hell from yesterday's dancin! But now I'm going to twitch and stomp and tap my foot because I expect the same level of activity I had yesterday."

[Eyeroll]

Whatever, body.

... In OPW news: that new "bug" button you see at the top of the page is meant for bug reports 'n' such. Bugs wing their way directly into our issue tracker, the same place Sean and I keep track of our own stuff. If we comment on your bug, you'll get an email, which includes a link to a page where you can reply further or unsubscribe.

For the geeks out there: we're using a github private repository for source code control on this project. Each repository comes with an issue tracker... but if the source code is private, the issue tracker is too. I spent quality time with the github API this weekend adding just enough plumbing to allow OPW users to create and update issues without ever having direct access to github.

It's kinda nifty. I spent too much time on it, but I reckon I'll either open-source it or turn it into a product in its own right.

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9/22 '14 4 Comments
That is a very cool application. It makes it simple for the end user while detailed enough that they can follow up if they would like.

Nicely done sir.
finally made it over here. thanks. what's the little alarm bell button do? clicked but nothing happened?
I've commented on the same post as you; now there will be something in your bellbox! And so on and on.
Thanks for the reminder that it needs a default message.
 

I just took a two-hour kizomba dance workshop with Manuel Dos Santos and Flavie, visiting from Montreal. Which is funny because we barely missed meeting them during our Montreal vacation this summer.

Manuel is a born entertainer, but he also has a rarer talent: he knows how to teach adults.

The thing about adults is that we usually don't have to be in that class. Sure, we'll miss out on something if we don't show up, but we have other choices. And we will exercise them if we don't feel good about what's happening.

To teach adults effectively, you gotta:

  • Take the temperature of the room. Pitch your instruction to that level of skill.
  • Take time to reemphasize things until they stick.
  • Make sure people aren't frustrated.
  • Make sure people aren't bored. (Quite a balancing act, there.)
  • Keep 'em laughing, but not too distracted (see "bored" and "frustrated").

Manuel started off by blowing our minds with five minutes of kudoro— a high-energy but surprisingly easy step, as a warmup. Everybody feels good: check!

Then he asked us all to just dance for a minute, to gauge our level of skill with kizomba (hint: not a lot yet).

And then, he taught us two incredibly simple moves... and we did then for ten minutes at least, until he knew we had the feeling of the thing right. But he made sure we switched to dancing those moves together with a partner almost immediately. Because, y'know, that's the fun part.

And then he introduced the ladies' exit— the most important move in kizomba, the bit almost everything else is based on. And we drilled that for a long, long time...

And then we learned all sorts of things. And nearly all of us decided to stay for that second hour. Because we felt we were really getting it.

Toward the end, he threw in some slightly more advanced material. But he also quietly dropped one move when he saw the room react to it. Save that for another time. Teach the room you're in.

He's teaching the workshop again tomorrow out at La Luna in Bensalem. If I were free I'd go again.

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9/21 '14 3 Comments
Re: check the temperature of the room.

I'm sure there are many factors which contribute to this. When I took improv with Bobbi Block, she would have us do an exercise in pairs in every class. We'd have to sit down, look each other in the eye, and explain how we were feeling in general, how we were feeling physically at the moment, and how we felt emotionally at the moment. We'd thank each other for sharing. It was a good trust builder and it was excellent at defeating the sense of "I'm fine" that pervades culture.

I wish this had been part of all my classes.
Also, we weren't allowed to use the words "good," fine," or "okay." She gave us a list of approved adjectives, which we relied on heavily at the beginning.
I really like this concept. Can we do this with everybody?