It just occurred to me that I haven't looked at Facebook for a full 10 days. I turned off my notifcations eons ago. I don't care who tagged me in something. If you sent me a FB message, you're someone I don't care about since the people I DO care about know not to contact me there. I don't care if I miss event invites... they're all invitations to people's bands that I have never heard and never will since they only use Facebook to market themselves. (If you can't be bothered putting more effort into your marketing than a single FB invite, then I can't be bothered giving a crap.)  
I have friends who are glued to Facebook; many (not all) have FOMO: Fear of Missing Out. Fear that they won't know what someone had for lunch. Fear they won't see whatever. Fear they won't be able to tell the world their vaguebook status. I just don't care. I am NOT judging those who like FB-- it has much wider reach than most everything else, which is part of its appeal. I just don't care. I did fine for the past 30 years not knowing what Sandy, a person I haven't talked to in 25 years, was doing while her daughters were at ballet.
Enter One Post Wonder, which coincides perfectly with a new acronym I learned: JOMO: Joy of Missing Out. I am more than happy to spend my days off simply lounging in bed with my beau as the world does what they do all day. I'm totally OK with missing out on all of that. 
OPW gives me the right amount of interaction. I really am grateful for it. 
I don't see giving up LJ yet, but I do cross-post a lot, and that's OK for me for now.
Anyway, I'm way overdue for bed... I'm teaching a hellish class this week with my allergies in hella overdrive, so every sentence is punctuated with a sniffle or a wipe with a hanky. (Yes, I carry a hanky now. I'm old.)  This is a 5-day class, so i'll be home late Friday night with a gig at Melodies Cafe in Ardmore, PA (2 Lancaster Ave if memory serves)  on the 25th. Looking forward to it.
JOMO. Google it. Feels good.
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Are you me? Because I could have written this. It's been almost 6 weeks since I last "caught up" on Fb, and I've cut down on my "Likes" to a few days a month or so.

This is like quitting smoking. We need banners with a countdown!

There has been much less drama in my life since then. I appreciate my little corner of the world more.
I definitely have FOMO.
I wonder if antibiotics will help.
I'm with you Shellebot. I find it sad that my sense of social interaction comes from a glowing rectangle, but I don't really know of a reasonable alternative given the Day Job. #ThingsToWorkOn
I know Jerm would go to drop-in yoga classes when he was on the road-- they're easy enough to find, and like $12 or something. A little social interaction (granted, not tons, but something), a little stretchy-stretch after a full day, and a yoga-panted-yoga-butt in your face (often worth $12 right there).
Yeah - you've mentioned that before. I like the idea, but I'm waaay too self conscious about my physique atm. I like the idea even more for some kind of martial arts class, but so far I haven't found anything like that - where you can 'drop in'.
When I am really fucking sick of my FOMO problem, I create content as opposed to absorb it. Sometimes it's an email to a friend who I know will read and respond and we'll have a personal connection as opposed to "Hello world, here is this random thing I am saying" or a text or a call. Or, if I just need to like myself better and not necessarily connect, I write a paper journal entry or do a chore, anything to Create and not just Witness.
That is freakin' awesome.

I don't always think of FOMO in terms of glowing rectangles, either.

Like, I first learned the term at Flipside, which is Austin's regional Burning Man event. It only lasts 4 nights (vs.the 7 nights at BMan) so after I've partied two nights in a row and my body is begging for a night off and telling me to go back to my tent, my FOMO forces me to stay out and have a shitt time because I'm exhausted instead of friggin' sleeping. I mean, what if something cool happened and I didn't get to see it or be in the group photo or hear that DJ? I was struggling with that one night at Flipside in 2009 or 2010 (I can't remember-- it was the year we burned ISH... MattL knows the year I'm talking about), and one of our campmates simply said "FOMO." I asked what it meant, he explained, and I suddenly felt like it was OK to go nap and potentially miss stuff.

These days, I'm a homebody, and am more than happy to bask in the JOMO. Let the world spin, parties and all, without me. I can either feel bad about not attending, or I can give myself permission to be present and in the moment at home, even if I'm doing what looks like nothing. It's my time, and I'm not gonna allow myself to feel badly about missing stuff.

Also: now that I finally understand the definition of "introvert" and realize that I am HELLA introverted, my JOMO is only getting deeper. I'm teaching 8 hours a day pouring my energy out to everyone; and then I'm in the studio giving all my energy and passion as I create arrangements, collaborate, and sing; and then I'm on stage giving my energy out to everyone... and I recharge my batteries by being alooooone. I need it desperately... even moreso the older I get. I won't feel guilty for saying "No, thanks."

It makes me happy to know that you write. I remember you said (this year? Last year?) that you wanted to write more, and the world needs more Shelle writing. The world makes sense to me if I know you're writing, even if it's something I'll never see. Just like I always used to get happy when you'd do your RWP and sometimes the W also stood for "Wearing" and you mentioned argyll socks. I don't know why that makes me so happy, but there you have it.

#thisisverylong
#iloveyou
#okbye

And these days
I forgot to delete "And these days" and I don't know if comments can be edited (especially on mah phone).

#okshutupjill
I like Create > Witness.
Power, sister.

I've noticed some crossposting going on and I like it.
By that I mean that I agree with you wholeheartedly. I also just logged into FB to stalk some of the Minneapolis/Theatre Pro Rata folks, so I am my own worst enemy.
P.S. I've been carrying cloth hankies for decades. Classy AND practical, for us eterno-snifflers.
note to self; start working on making handmade/embroidered handkerchiefs for my friends.
I LEARNED IT FROM WATCHING YOU! (OK, and my dad, too. But seriously, seeing you wield your hanky made me wanna wield mine.)

#soundsdirty
#yupIjusthashtaggedthisbizzleknowingitdoesnothing
Oh man... what's #twss? Gaaaah! I can't figure it out!

#feelingdumb
That's what she says. My sister-in-law says it so frequently that it became an acronym!
My brother (Josh) and his wife have a button on the side of their fridge (think : Staples 'that was easy' button) that play several different voices saying "That's what she said!"
Where did they get that button? I still need to get Amy a birthday gift! :)
Not sure - I'll ask.
That's what she SAID.
Sober Argonauts Inserting Ducklings
Tasty Waitresses Selling Sarsparilla.
I used to sniff and snorq and drip and honk every day until I (wait for it) stopped eating wheat. I still carry cloth hankies, though. So useful for many things, like cleaning screens and blotting spills and squirrelling away odd bits of nosh for later.
 

We added a feature this week to help solve the "where is everybody" problem:

1. Click "Read." (You're probably there already.)

2. Just below "Read," you'll see three buttons: "following," "network," and "public."

3. "Following" is your usual feed. "Network" is, basically, friends of friends - people followed by people you follow, but not by you, not yet anyway. Naturally it shows only public posts. And "Public" is the firehose: all the public posts in the entire OPWverse.

It won't be long before the "public" feed is impractical to keep up with, which is why we added "network." But "public" will probably always be a fun way to sample the zeitgeist.


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I haven't posted in a little bit, so let me say a little about Wellfleet Oysterfest.  I look forward to this event every year and even drive 6 hours each way for the weekend just to attend.

It's an outdoor festival in "downtown" Wellfleet on Cape Cod and basically you go from vendor to vendor eating plates of fresh oysters on the half shell, drinking oyster stout beer, checking out nautically oriented crafts, and listening to NRBQ. There is also a highly anticipated shucking competition.

The lemon on the oyster (teehee) for me is that many of my friends from college convene every year in what has become somewhat of an annual tradition.

It was awesome and now...back to work.

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10/20 '14 3 Comments
I was wondering about this when I saw it on FB. I didn't expect oysters to be an autumnal activity.
It's a way of extending the tourist season after Columbus Day Weekend. A last hurrah! As it turns out, oysters are better and healthier to eat in the cooler months. Warm water=icky bacteria. Another reason to be vegan ;-)
 

So the new OSX operating system version 10.10 shipped recently. They're calling it Yosemite. It makes a lot of things better/nicer/prettier. More in line with my sense of style.

Except the system font.  (The system font is what "system" things are drawn with. Things like menu bars and buttons. Stuff you look at all the time.)

The system font in OSX used to be Lucida Grande.  Now it's Helvetica Neue. That's bad.

Here's an image that shows the difference, courtesy of 64notes.com.

Helvetica is a regressive step for text like system captions because it's harder to read at small point sizes. It runs a little narrower in width for the same amount of text, which can be good for screen space conservation, but that is partly due to the things that make the font harder to read. And I think we can agree that harder to read is a bad direction to go for any important typeface. 

Here's a list of things wrong with Helvetica, as compared to other typefaces in its genre, that make it a poor choice for a utility font.

1. The x-height is short.  X height is a measurement of the height of the x character, and is a shorthand metric for the overall height of lowercase characters. In general, the taller the lowercase characters are in proportion to uppercase characters, the easier a font is to read at small sizes. (Yes, there is a point where this effect reverses itself.)  Small type sizes call for a proportionally larger X height.  (Admittedly, Lucida Grande's x-height is slightly shorter than Helvetica's. I never said it was perfect, only that it was overall, better.)

2. The bowls are enlarged and almost circular. The bowls are parts of the letterform that need to be distinctly round; letter with bowls are a, c, o, p, d, b and so on. Big, round bowls take up more space and, with their large interiors, tend to make text look uneven. Some roundness is needed, but an exaggerated, almost circular roundness is a specific stylistic choice. Small type sizes call for a more oval bowl shape to allow balanced density.

3. The kerning is too tight. This is where Helvetica gains space efficiency, by jamming characters together. By and large, the tight kerning is a response to the big round bowls. With all that whitespace within the characters, the only way to optically balance a line of text is to push characters closer together, visually augmenting their black lines. Tight kerning is particularly dangerous at small sizes, when characters can appear to run into each other. Bad kerning leading to character collisions is amusingly called keming for this very reason. Small type sizes call for a modestly kerned font.

4. The characters are too closed. The degree of open-ness of a typeface is represented by how much whitespace there is between disjoint features of the character. A simple measure of this is how much space there is between the two endpoints on the letter c, or between the upswing on the lowercase e and the crossbar, or between the two ends of the s and the middle sweep. A tightly closed typeface like Helvetica is harder to read at small sizes because the whitespace that should flow through the letterforms is more closed off. Small type sizes call for a moderately open font.

Helvetica is not a bad font. It's fine at large sizes, especially when used in moderation.

But it's a bad choice for a computer system font where readability at small point sizes is critical, and I think Apple has made a real mistake here.

Unfortunately, I think we're stuck with it. Apple's made a huge deal about the typography in iOS7 (where we first saw Helvetica used as a system font) and iOS8, and now it's all over OSX in Mavericks.  Crap.

Here's an interesting thing, though. You'd think if Apple was really in love with Helvetica, they'd use it all over their website, too. After all, the website is the first impression any company makes on a new customer. But, they don't use Helvetica there at all: Apple.com's CSS font-family specifier is "Myriad Set Pro", "Lucida Grande", "Helvetica Neue" , ...  in exactly that order. Which, interestingly, is about the order in which I'd like to see those fonts used.

I guess the folks behind the website still have some independence. I wonder how long it will be until Jony Ive whips them into conformance.

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10/20 '14 3 Comments
I haven't "upgraded".
How long can I not do that?
A couple years, maybe longer, if you don't care about updating applications.
I KNEW there was a reason I hate looking at my computer now.
 

I'm reaching out to all my "more technically gifted" programming people with a desperate cry for help.

I'm trying to update a WordPress site for a client. I deleted the original home page because it wouldn't accept any edits, so now I've got the 7 pages he requested. They're done & visible when you visit his site. The problem is that the original home page still exits online - yet it's not available to me when I'm in the editor for WP. 

I've looked in different WP fora and all tell me to go to the "Appearance" tab or "Settings - Reading" but I'm discovering that my dashboard doesn't give me the any of the following options: Home/ Store/ Feedback/ Appearance/ Users. I'm running 4.0 and he updated to 4.0 also. My settings gives me virtually no options - and certainly not "reading."

I don't know how/ where to type in phpMyAdmin to try to change the site url or home values (and I'm not sure how to do that, anyway, but I read somewhere that it would help). I've cleared my cache, so it's not that the old page is lingering on my computer somewhere. I can't figure out how to get to the root install directory- or even if it's necessary.

Suggestions much appreciated!

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10/20 '14 2 Comments
Ouch! I wish I could help but Wordpress is actually not my forte.
Sad panda :(
 

I certainly like OPW better for the interface than certain other recently-launched blogging sites (although the small window for post creation could be bigger). I'm still not sure how this will fit into my overall social media ecosystem (which consists mainly of LJ, Twitter, and FB these days, although I've got presences elsewhere). For now, consider this a placeholder and a note that I am, indeed, here, with plans to post at least occasionally.

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I'm very picky about beer. Through some experimentation, I've learned that the taste I don't like in beer comes from the hops. The hoppier the beer, the less I will enjoy drinking it. Apparently, there's a way to measure how much I will hate the taste of a beer, and it's called IBU. My three favorite beers are 19, 20, and 24, and all are malty, which apparently cancels out the IBUs somewhat.

But there's another thing about beer that makes me even more finicky, and that's the fact that it gives me a stomachache. There's a number for that, too, and it's ABV. The higher the alcohol content, the less likely it is to give me a stomachache. Only applies to beer! I can drink 5% ABV cider or Smirnoff Ice all night long, but one 5% ABV beer and I'll have a sour stomach for an hour. 7% seems to be the minimum for me to be able to drink a beer. How does this make a difference? How does  such a small amount make a difference? I don't know - and I'm rather unwilling to find out. Mostly, when I do drink, I just avoid beer.

All this is just to explain how there came to be a 4-year-old bottle of Maudite (http://www.unibroue.com/en/beers/17/product) in my possession. I was about to throw it out, when I figured I should check the Unibroue site to find out how long it would keep. Unibroue says: "Like good wine, Unibroue’s fine beers have flavors that develop with age." They suggest that it can age up to 8 years. So I kept it around. And then kept it around some more, never finding the right moment to open up what had suddenly become a potential treasure.

4 years later, I realized that a dream deferred is a dream denied, and now I am having far and away the best glass of beer I've enjoyed in my life. Unibroue, again: "Over time they become smoother, sometimes revealing notes of honey and candied fruit and developing a more assertive and lasting flavor." Yes, that seems about right. It's a 750mL bottle, and I'm enjoying half of it in a glass right now; I've corked it and put the rest in the fridge. And then it will be all gone. On the plus side, my habit of buying beer and not drinking it means that I have a 3-year-old bottle of Maudite maturing right now; only 5 more years and I can see how that one turns out!

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I started making music as a young child, took the obligatory clarinet lessons in grade school, and then started to LOVE it. Through high school, I played four instruments (clarinet, sax, trumpet, and handbells), sang in two choral groups, was a drum majorette, I directed a small handbell choir at my school, and I toured for two weeks each summer with my church handbell choir (we were, I will say as humbly as I can, Very Good). I did not go on to become a music major; in fact my playing dropped off sharply in my 20s. I never did get far on piano, guitar (not for lack of trying), drums, or anything else one could reasonably expect to play casually as an adult.

Many years later, when the kids were babies, I began singing and ringing again, and it lit me up inside. My kids started piano lessons just over a year ago and my husband has set up his recording gear again and we've been slowly accumulating instruments in the living room which the kids can pick up and play with any time, and there is music everywhere and I am in heaven. Wednesday and Sunday evenings (choir and handbell rehearsal at church) are my weekly therapy.

When tendinitis in my wrists cut short my goal of becoming a halfway proficiant pianist, I had my clarinet refurbished, and started playing that again. Tried guitar lessons again too. Stupid RA had made my fingers stiff and sore, so those have been sidelined for a while as well.

Can't stop me from music now, though. Today I bought a (cheap, student) trumpet. Hey, if the kids are going to be well-rounded musicians they'll need a little bit of everythng, right? So I picked it up, 30 years since I've last played brass, and I did this:


http://soundcloud.com/tabinfl/angels-we-have-heard-on-high/s-N58fJ

It's still in there, somewhere! I can still music!

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Yes! I take this as a reminder of my pledge to practice guitar and tackle those song challenges I took on.

FYI, I just pushed up a fix for pasting soundcloud links and having something cool happen automatically. It works particularly well if you check the box to allow widgets when you add your track to soundcloud.
Woohoo! Nifty!
Time to learn more about soundcloud than just hitting the button in garage band! ;)
Aha! Yeah I bet that doesn't enable the widget option.
Toot sweet!
 

In early August, I agreed to sub-contract a cool program for Pearson's Wall Street English via a small LLC in New Mexico. My responsibility? To generate 1,000+ grammar and vocabulary exercises for a beginner-advanced online English course set to roll out in China some time next year. Start date for my part of the project? September 26.

The date came ... and went ... And I, who am trying to scrape together enough to pay the bills and not dip too deeply into our rapidy shrinking savings account, began to panic. Fortunately, a few larger clients for whom I'd done web copy revisions and additions paid me - and that covered September's mortgage, car payment and my little guy's preschool tuition (and a few odds and ends). 

And still I waited. I reminded myself each night and morning that I absolutely could earn a decent living freelance writing/ editing & adjuncting at Cedar Crest, and that a more nebulous income still beat the stress from my previous job - and the non-financial rewards of spending more than two hours a day with my 4 1/2 year old far, far outweighed the drawbacks.

I must say, however, that it'd be nice to have health insurance again.

So finally, New Mexico called, by way of Germany. Turns out the "middle" man needed to bow out. Where did that leave me? I determined not to panic - not an easy feat. Pan's floodwaters threatened to rise higher than my calves, but I trusted that everything would work out.

And so I waited, the start date now three weeks past due. On Thursday, a woman from Pearson's Content Creation divison called and followed up our conversation with a torrent of emails. Pearson's rewritten several scripts, realized more activities are needed to hit all unit objectives, and oh, by the way, the time to complete the project's shrunk by a month and doubled in scope.

Now the floodwaters reach mid-chest, but these waters teem with data, metrics, matrices, and a prototype deadline of October 24. Twenty levels with at least 100 exercises per level equals a minimum of 2,000 exercises to write between tomorrow and project end date- March 15. 

I determined several years ago that it was time to transition from full time to part time teaching and incorporate education writing into my life. 

And so it begins!

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10/20 '14 2 Comments
Zoinks and congratulations.
Yow! Glad the work reappeared though.
 

Today I'm grateful that;

Smart people like the podcast so far

I had it together to write a new sample article and apply for two freelance writing jobs

Vince cooked us a delicious healthy dinner 

Bebe and I went for a good fast walk in the beautiful fall weather

we can go to bed early. 


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10/20 '14 1 Comment
Kickin' down the cobblestones (because they don't maintain the street)