Yesterday is going to be one of those days I remember when I am old as one of those perfect family days where everyone was happy and silly and playful and we made my stoic dad get choked up a few times as we celebrated his 75th birthday and Mom wasn't hurting and we all ate perfect steaks that Matt brought and Dell was feeling good and not a single jab was thrown (but not because we were trying to be on good behavior, but because it never occurred to anyone to say something cruddy) and the weather was perfect and we played catch outside (or watched people play catch outside) until we all came inside and the kids were all at that age where they were up for anything and nothing was too dorky to do. We flung Snapple caps, we talked about important things and not-important things and hugged a lot. I wish I was back up there right now.  


I never want to forget yesterday.


(x-posted to xtingu.livejournal.com)

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5/26 '15 12 Comments
Sounds like a Very Good Day indeed.
Also, what did the Snapple caps say?
Sounds like a Very Good Day indeed.
BEST DAY EVER.
Glad to hear it. xoxo
\o/ Dance of day! \o/!
HOLY BALLS THIS IS THE GREATEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE. ALL FRIGGIN' CAPS!!!11!!!1! Thank youthankyouthankyouthankyou!!
And I crap in a box cause I don't give a fuck, and a guy throws it out for me.
One of the better Johnny Cash covers.
hahahaha! It's the best day ever tomorrow!
 

My favorite, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead is running NOW at The Wilma Theater. I must go. Anyone else?


It's like Hamlet++


It's like Waitng for Godot to  poison Gerturde.


It's like Our Town (is Elsinore).


Don't let me miss it!


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5/26 '15 4 Comments
I'm into it.
One of the few nights I recall from college is going to see this with you. Ah, the mems.
Le sigh.
And Al as the chauffeur...
 

Here are some questions for you good people:

Do athiests have a "belief?" Or is atheism a lack of belief? Is it a leap of faith to believe there are no gods, or are athiests standing firmly on the ground by disbelieving in all gods?

In a few other words: is athiesm science, religion, philosophy, or a combination thereof? And - this one's for those who consider themselves atheists - does it matter? Is the difference between "I believe there are no gods" and "I disbelieve in all gods" important?

I have an opinion, but I'm much more interested in yours. Besides, who the hell am I to say? I think Ewoks are awesome and Tyler, the Creator is the best thing to happen to music since Smear joined the Foos for good. So maybe I'm not the best one to judge.

                                                             Yep. This guy.

So there you have it! Fire away. You're welcome to bring your own belief system into the discussion, but it isn't necessary. Politeness and respect is, though, but y'all knew that already.

Thanks! And if I accidentally earwormed you with George Michael, well...you're welcome

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5/25 '15 8 Comments
When I married Jason, the Rabbi who married U.S. said that Jason's atheism was stronger than my Judaism. One time he asked him, "Tell me about the God you don't believe in." Jason had a very clear picture in his mind of that nonexistent God.
Us, not U.S.
I do not find existential comfort in systems that rely on faith rather than evidence. However, I do think there is self-comfort to be found in the performance of kindness to other beings. Further, faith-based systems that emphasise and encourage the practice of that sort of kindness seem to be very useful templates for behaviour patterns, if not internal mental states.

So, even if I don't subscribe to a literal interpretation of the writings of and about Gautama Buddha, I still don't mind calling myself a Buddhist, as it gives others an easy shorthand understanding of my behaviour patterns and my regard for other beings.
On reflection, I probably shouldn't say I'm a Buddhist. That's appropriation: saying one is a thing, when one isn't. I guess I could say I have Buddhist-like behaviour patterns. Or I could just call myself a Humanist. That would probably be best.
Thomas Jefferson was also a humanist so you'd be in good company.
A long time ago I described myself as militantly agnostic: "I don't know if there's a God, and you don't either."

I took this stance partly in response to people who thought atheism was "wimpy," but mainly because I was drawing a distinction between a view held on the basis of the available evidence (which, to my mind, was essentially nil either way) and a view held because you'd like things to be that way ("I don't like the idea of God, or the people who believe in God"). The former can pretend to being objective, the latter is on no firmer ground than fundamentalism.

Later I read some of Stephen Hawking's pop-science stuff and decided that the evidence suggested an omnipotent creator is unnecessary to get us to where we are; the weak anthropic principle, and the possibility of many universes, are sufficient explanation. So I became an atheist, but not an especially vehement one, because it's tricky to rule out the possibility that something chose the initial conditions. Occam's Razor isn't an iron-clad guarantee.

One more thought that helped me put my views in perspective: I realized that the fear of damnation wasn't much of a motivation for me. That is, even if pascal's wager wasn't fundamentally flawed to begin with (*), it is cowardly not to live in accordance with your own ethical beliefs. I didn't want to obey some of the more reprehensible bits of Leviticus or punish others who did not do so, even if it meant I'd be in trouble down the road. And a God who wouldn't expect me to was at least as likely to exist anyway.

That is still essentially where I sit. I agree it's a very different animal from the viewpoint of an atheist who speaks of nothing but how Catholic he isn't.

But can we draw any useful conclusions from this about the average atheist? I don't know; has anyone surveyed self-identified atheists to find out if their viewpoint is more like mine, or more like that of Shelle's ex?

(*) Because a God who demands the opposite of all the rules you've been following "just in case" is equally probable.
what's the term for someone who simply has no interest in questions of god, gods, his/her/their existence, and his/her/their role in human life?

I neither believe nor disbelieve nor consider it an open question. I'm not interested enough in the problem to want to bother.
You read my mind.
 

Yesterday I brought a group of people to the Musem of Modern Art in New York City. Due to minor mishaps I had two extra tickets.

This is not a huge deal and I immediately considered just writing them both off as donations, it's a worthy cause after all. But we did decide to try offering them to folks in the ticket line, for something less than original price. Waste not, want not. Habits of a lifetime.

Nobody was interested. As someone in our group pointed out, this could be because they didn't know if I was honest, and that's a good point, although it's also easily solved: come with me when I go through the entrance; see if you get in or not; pay me then.

But what stopped me from even suggesting that was the looks people gave me. They weren't doubting looks. They were incredulous, snooty, dismissive looks.

You speak of MONEY, sir? You disturb the AESTHETIC of this LOBBY? How GAUCHE! This is an ART MUSEUM!

These are the same people who probably wrote poignant tweets when they encountered the Minimum Wage Machine, a performance piece in which anyone can turn a crank to produce a trickle of coins, which is exciting until you realize they are being disbursed at the rate of $8 per hour and gradually become depressed by the knowledge of how little that is.

Screw those people and their faux concern for the truly poor and their open disdain for the middle class. I'm glad I made them see me and my Target clothes and my perfectly good extra tickets.

(Yes, I'm sure I'm misjudging somebody in that line, but they'll live. Very well.)


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5/24 '15 11 Comments
Is MOMA even an "Art Museum," though? I'm not an art snob, I swear (I really dig MOMA), but I feel like it's become just a checkmark on a tourist's guide of THINGS TO DO IN NEW YORK. At my most cynical, I fear it's a big stack of paintings on top of an overpriced gift shop.
Wow, I wish I'd been there for this. You just had your own Occupy MOMA performance art exhibit and nobody juried it.
Seriously, I should have made a poster or something. Right now the sixth floor is showing a Yoko Ono retrospective. In 1971 she announced a show at MOMA, then when no one could find her work or any official acknowledgement of it, she explained she'd released flies in the lobby. Give it 44 years and that turns into a curated show of all your shitty hair-locket poems.
I could come back and do this with a cameraperson.
But then it would be planned. It's still tempting, though.
Jeez, you'd think any New Yorkers in line (or on line, as they say) would have taken you up on it just for the time saving factor, never mind the money.
That's an excellent point. It is quite possible that my read of their reactions was accurate, but none of them were from NYC.
WATCH YOUR STEP IN NEW YORK, MARABEL - THE WHOLE PLACE IS FULL OF HUCKSTERS AND CRIMINALS WHO WILL TAKE YOU FOR EV'RY HARD EARNED DOLLAR YOU HAVE IF YOU LET 'EM! WATCH OUT ESPECIALLY FOR ANYONE WHO TRIES TO SELL YOU ANYTHING ON THE STREET OR IN A MUSEUM LOBBY.
Point. I probably looked even shadier than I realize.
You weren't wearing that hat in your profile picture, were you? :-)
 

Going to our cousins' for dinner. I got stuff to make kale-cabbage salad with pomegranate-blueberry dressing, and August: Osage County. 

I find it amusing that Julia Roberts has gone from "drink y'juice Shelby," to "EAT THE FISH, MA." 

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5/23 '15
 

What would happen if I just went to bed early right now? 

What would happen to the 9 zillion ideas zooming around in my head? 

What if I listened to my body and recharged my batteries? 

Will I still have the ideas in the morning? ​

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5/20 '15
 
 

OK Philly, it's Primary Election Day! I'm voting for:

MAYOR: Jim Kenney. Not much of a surprise. Broad support for him. He's an honest guy, rooted in the community and highly intelligent. He's taught local government at Fels for years. I prefer his labor connections to Anthony Williams' charter school dollars. I think Kenney is our next consensus Mayor.

CITY COUNCIL AT LARGE:

Helen Gym: forced the Parking Authority to cough up their profits to the schools like they are required to. Saved the last public school in Nicetown.

Paul Steinke: successfully led the Reading Terminal Market in complex times.

Jenne Ayers: wonky in the right ways. Interested in data-driven do-gooding like the STRIVE partnerships in Cincinnati. A milliennial, for a change.

Tom Wyatt: the local community gardeners like him. (Hey, that's important in our household.)

Sherrie Cohen: key issues for her include libraries and public pools. Widely endorsed.

DISTRICT 1 CITY COUNCIL: Squilla's decent. Nobody's running against him. Zzzz.

HELL NO: Wilson Goode, Jr: a little bird tells me he "can't read a spreadsheet." Frank Rizzo, Jr.: accepted a DROP retirement plan the first time around; these were never meant for City Council. Blondell Reynolds-Brown: in hot water for ethics reasons in 2013.

NAH: Allan Domb is running a straight "I am good at the business things" campaign with no interesting ideas on what he'd do on council. We could do worse, but we could do better.

CITY COMMISSIONER: not excited about any of the Democrats, and I'm one. But in the general election I plan to vote for Al Schmidt, a Republican. He's got a deep resume and has been doing the job well for a while.

JUDGE OF THE ANYTHING: THIS SHOULD NOT BE AN ELECTED POSITION. WHAT. THE. FRICK. So, let the Philly Bar Association's website tell you who is at least a competent lawyer, and vote accordingly. See the comments.

BALLOT QUESTIONS

"Abolish the SRC and return control of schools to the City:" no. The state's not great, but we had corruption problems on our own, remember?

"Commission for women:" yes.

"City agencies to prepare plans for participation of those with limited English skills:" yes. Anything to anger Joey Vento's ghost.

"Commission on universal pre-kindergarten:" DEFINITELY.

See below for useful links for making up your own mind. (What, you're just going to vote my slate? Um, I mean, sure. Do that, thousands of you.)


Download a sample ballot:




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5/19 '15
 

In all earnest, this tee is not at all an inappropriate gift from my ex. Yes, it is a funny funny life I lead. 

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5/19 '15 1 Comment
I'm thinking of having one made that says "trigger warning" on the front and "free hugs" on the back, but I don't know if I've got balls enough to actually wear it anywhere.
 

Our air conditioner isn't working. 

I called the AC guys to schedule an appointment. They made one. I texted Vince to tell him. 

Vince wrote back, "Maybe I should get an HVAC certification. I could be the next Harry Tuttle."

I think it'd be the perfect job for him. 

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5/18 '15 7 Comments
Also? It's good money and work can be found all over. (I know that it's not a fer real thing, but...)

Also - the media you embedded isn't showing up for me.
Also? I apparently start sentences with Also entirely too much.
It's a clip from Brazil when Harry Tuttle explains why he became an underground heating technician.
Ahh. That explains it. (I failed to think about the fact that this computer - a work computer - locks out tons of sites like Youtube.)
Also, I <3 Vince today.
I told him that you said that and it made him very happy.
We're all in this together.