So I'm really stuck on this whole boat metaphor.  (Too much reality tv?  Below Deck Marathons... anyone?)

Beyond the boat in the storm, I've been reflecting on my crew.  Bear with me as I break down this cheesy metaphor.

The captain of any ship needs a first mate and a solid crew.  These are the people that will help you chart a smooth course and survive the inevitable storms.  They're looking out for your best interest along the journey.

Here's the catch-

The best people for the job may not be the ones you've assigned to this role.

Mind blown.  Truly.

At 37 years old, I'm just beginning to grasp this concept.  There are so many people in our lives that we keep on as crew members and even first mates, who are no longer suited for the job.

Maybe they are there out of habit, or a sense of obligation.  We often let family members and old friends fill these roles, regardless of their effectiveness or interest in the job.  I'm here to tell you, they are taking up valuable space.  

I'm starting to see that it's impossible to chart your journey without an excellent first mate and crew.  Ones that you have mindfully selected, not just allowed to exist.

Here's the other thing-

They are often not who you thought they would be.  Maybe your partner is not your first mate.  Maybe your sister is not a member of your crew.  That's ok.  

Let them go from the role that you've assumed for them.  Let them go from the role that others expect them to play in your life. That's the powerful part of this process.  Letting go of assumptions and expectations. I have found it to be very challenging and important work.

Once you can let go, there is room for you to select your first mate and crew. To put your time and energy into a network of loving and supportive people who give that energy and love right back.

So, today I made a list.  I wrote down the names of my first mate and crew.  The go to people in my life.  Without thinking about it, I simply listed the first names that came to mind.  People I depend on.  People who take me 'as is'.  

At first, it was an odd little list.  And it was a short list. Many of the usual suspects were missing. It felt strange not to list family members or even some of my oldest friends.

Then I saw the common thread.  Every single person on this list energizes me. They make me laugh. They are honest and open, while being kind and respectful of my journey. These people truly shelter me from the storm, no questions asked.  Just seeing their names in print was comforting. They are my crew.



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11/13 '14 2 Comments
Thanks so much, Sean!
A lovely and succinct way of expressing the notion. Thanks.
 
 

Today, I made the best grilled cheese sandwich I've ever experienced. I feel compelled to make a note of how I did it. (It always saddens me when I reflect on the fact that every time I'm really proud of something I cooked, it involves dairy and/or gluten, and so many of my friends have a hard time with one or both of those.)

2 slices Nature's Own Butterbread (we're off to a healthy start already!)

1 tablespoon of butter

1 slice of deli gouda

1 slice of pepper jack

1 ounce of fresh mozzarella, sliced thin enough that it makes a layer all its own

1 slice of muenster

2 thin slices of onion

1 medium slice of a gorgeous tomato that happened to be almost as big as the bread

Melt the butter over medium heat. Sauté the onion in the butter until glassy, and remove from butter (trying to leave as much butter in the pan as possible). Place the bread slices in the pan, and on top of them, the cheese (2 types of cheese on each slice of bread; I did gouda and pepper jack on one, mozzarella and muenster on the other, but I don't imagine it matters much), then the onion - one slice of onion on each side. My rings of onion fell apart, so I tried to spread them out a bit. Reduce the heat and leave it on the stove for a while, then put it under the broiler for a while. Put one slice on a plate, top with a tomato, and then put the other slice face down on top. Press down, let cool for a minute, and eat over a plate to catch the juice. If you're the kind of person who doesn't just stand over a plate in the kitchen wolfing down a sandwich without ever setting it down, you'll probably want a second plate to set the sandwich down on so you're not laying the toasted side of the bread down in the drippy juice.

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11/12 '14
 

I saw Interstellar last night and made three tweets about my experience.

  • Interstellar was okay, except the score. Koyaanisqatsi had all the deafening pipe organ arpeggios anyone ever needed, this was inexcusable.
  • Also Matthew McConaughey has seated himself on Marlon Brando's throne as Crown King of "Acting With Mouth Stuffed Full of Toilet Paper"
  • That said, Anne Hathaway's performances were excellent, and the story was a bit hokey but very nicely paced. Go see it.

I got a response to my first post on Facebook (which gets copies of my tweets) from someone who complained that I always point out negative things, and then said that the science and visuals were awesome and they'd love to see it again, with earplugs. (I'm not quoting because that's probably rude.)

There's a lot I could unpack here that would probably be fairly tedious reading but I would like to make a couple points anyway.

I don't think there are any true spoilers here, but I do mention a couple of plot points in a very abstract way, and those two paragraphs are clearly identified below in point three.

First, I will complely own being a "complainer." Actually, that's just a side effect, when I'm feeling talkative. I absolutely am one of those people who is often profoundly disturbed by seemingly minor negative experiences. I actually feel this is a fairly useful skill in someone who designs things for a living. If I couldn't perceive the details about what was wrong with a situation or an object or an experience, how would I know when it was right or know how to fix it? So, yes, I can focus on negative things. This doesn't mean I don't experience good things. 

Second, for any form of professional endeavour, from an appliance to a restauraunt meal to a game to a movie, to there is a bar that one is expected to pass, and that bar is fails to suck. You don't get five stars if your product doesn't suck. You get two, maybe three. And in a triple A product, like a movie with a $168 million dollar price tag, I expect there to be no major and very few minor flaws. That's the price of admission: failing to suck.

And so when I have to strain to hear the dialogue because the lead actor is constantly mumbling (and it isn't relevant to the plot, like a story about someone overcoming a speech impediment), that violates my expectations for a triple A product, and I will call it out, because it sucks. Similarly, if the soundtrack for a movie is so intrusive that it repeatedly distracts me from the plot and visuals through sheer deafening volume and also renders essential if not critical dialogue sequences as basic exercises in lip-reading, I will call it out, because it sucks.

I consider "being able to understanding the dialogue" and "a relevant and complementary soundtrack" to be key components of a dramatic presentation. Interstellar failed on these fronts, and I said so.

Third, I don't consider scientific accuracy to be a key component of a dramatic presentation. A documentary, yes; I would expect it in a documentary. But not Interstellar. So though my interlocutor brandished that aspect of the movie as a positive, I can't accept it as more than a "nice to have". 

[ very mild spoilers next two paragraphs ]

And if one really wanted to dive into scientific accuracy, really the only accurate part of the movie was the visuals, which were not essential to the plot. When it came to plot beats, science was both used and abused willy-nilly. In general, it's a movie about the consequences about the time dialation aspects of general relativity, and I'm sure they did ran some equations that made the passage of time to be reasonably realistic.

However, they completely ignored other aspects of general relativity and astrophysics that, had they been considered, would have made the plot not work. In particular, the extreme redshifting of signals transmitted near a black hole would have mooted any justification for visiting the first planet, thus throwing entire plot in disarray.  Even worse, the vast amounts of high-energy radiation produced by matter falling into a black hole, especially a large one with a massive accretion disc, would instantly fry any humans or electronics that got anywhere nearby, which would basically have ended the movie right at the beginning of the second act. 

[ end spoilers ]

So they used some science to tell a story and ignored some other science to make that story work. I'm okay with that. It's called suspension of disbelief, and it's why I can enjoy a superhero movie. I don't poke holes in dramatic presentations for scientific inaccuracy, because science isn't why I'm there.

Fourth, I also said some nice things. I said the movie was "okay"; it passes the bar for AAA dramatic presentations: the acting was good, the cinematography was decent, the script was pleasant, the pacing appropriate, characterizations seemed on target, and the story engaging.

I also said that Anne Hathaway turned in some great acting; not just acceptable, but really worth watching.  I said the story was a bit hokey; its beats are just a bit too familiar to be really compelling, but not actually bad. And I said the pacing was very nice; it's a 3 hour flick, and it uses the "silences" between the words as effectively as the words themselves (I scare-quote silences beacuse the soundtrack rarely offered us any silence), and it didn't feel rushed or draggy.

And I said "go see it" which I stand by. It's worth seeing on the big screen with the understanding that you might be sticking your fingers in your ears one moment, and straining to hear Cooper's dialogue the next (and some times both), and if you do you'll enjoy a nicely paced if a bit hokey story with good acting all around as well as some inspired work from one of the next generation's best actors.

I would probably give it a somewhat resentful 4 stars on Netflix because I couldn't give it 3.5 and if I was using Ebert's star scale I'd give it ***.

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11/12 '14 5 Comments
You are far too kind. Bad sound editing often completely ruins a movie for. And good sound editing can redeem a movie that is otherwise complete schlock. It is a key component and should be done well. Period.
I'm glad to see I wasn't the only one making unfavorable comparisons to Koyaanisqatsi. I have enjoyed Hans Zimmer scores in the past; I think this was just the wrong movie for his style.

I don't know if the science was terrible, or just so terribly advanced that I didn't understand it, but I'm unfamiliar with any effect that would cause the relativistic effects of the black hole to totally disappear until some sort of "cusp," and then instantly ramp up to "one hour is seven years." And if that WERE the case, then it seems like crossing that cusp would be a horrible experience. But people are making it very clear to me that Kip Thorne is much smarter than I am, and that it's all explained in the book, so part of me feels like I ought to read the book, and another part of me feels like I already spent $17 to see the movie, and I feel like that's probably enough.
The description I remember about approaching a black hole (and I probably remember it as far back as the 1970s) is that you'd be stretched into spaghetti. The sound was indeed startlingly overdone at times, with gigantic reverberations for no particular reason.
So I watched "The Science of Interstellar," a 40 minute Discovery documentary (net cost: $0, plus 40 more minutes of listening to Matthew McConaughey), and that exact question was addressed. Paraphrasing, but not as much as you might imagine: "Traditionally, people have thought that approaching a black hole would lead to spaghettification. But black holes have so much gravity that physics has no meaning!"

I'm assuming the book goes into greater detail.
The excuse I heard was that Gargantua was so effing big that tidal forces weren't really relevant to the plot. But as they hand-waved away radiation and redshifting too, sooooo they might as well say that chocolate chip cookies saved the Earth for as much as science matters.
 

I have a few PNG (thank you, Tom Boutell) files that I want to put on top of a simple PDF template and save as a new PDF. Positioning and size are important to get right. Word won't open the PDF template, I tried GIMP for an hour, read the tutorials, manual, couldn't get layers to move around without smooshing into each other, couldn't get images in any way besides layers.

I tried Preview on the Mac, because I read that could work, but I could not get it to work.

What am I looking for?

A. Image editing software

B. Graphic design software

C. Desktop publishing software

D. Something else

Thank you in advance, Rob

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11/11 '14 4 Comments
I'm making a little progress with GIMP.
GIMP is bitmap editing software, so it's going to trash any vector art in the original PDF template and give you a big ol' bitmap image when you're done. Depending on your needs this may not matter.

There's other shit I'm sure, but the Right Way to screw with existing PDFs is Adobe Acrobat. Disclaimer: never done it.
Adobe Acrobat sucks my arse. It's huge, expensive, bloaty, and it takes over your life.

But FoxIT Phantom is Adobe Acrobat's quiet competitor and is
(a) significantly cheaper than Acrobat
(b) infinitely smaller (quite lean actually!)
(c) bloatware-free
(d) easy enough to use
(e) does not beg you every 27 seconds to upgrade
(f) installed on every computer in my home.

I edit PDFs all the time for my job. I add image files to pdfs weekly. My friend, I can put that png file wherever you want it (which sounds dirty). Come on over, or I can come over, or you can send me the files and I can do it for you and send it back.

Afternoons are good. Evenings are bad. Mornings are worse.

Woot!
Jill FTW!
 

I was contacted today by the lead recruiter for an IT development company located in King of Prussia who needs a content writer. We emailed back and forth and chatted on the phone and - hurray - I have an interview tomorrow. 

In preparation, I checked out the company website, read some copy, scanned a few blogs. Oh boy, do they need a writer!

And the recruiter just emailed back thanking me for "conformation" of tomorrow's interview.

Yikes!

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11/10 '14 2 Comments
Yoo'd bettar confirm 2 his expectorations!
*giggle*
 


yes, it came out just as i typed it.

hese boxes seem to multiply.t

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11/10 '14 3 Comments
You can also type whatever title you'd like and use the "link" icon. That way there is no auto-embedding of any sort, just your text linking wherever you wish it to.

The auto-embedder for pasted links needs work. The text needs to be fully editable and the image it chooses needs to be selectable, including eliminating it entirely.

It works very well on sites that support oembed (youtube, vimeo, slideshare) and moderately well on sites that use facebook's Open Graph tags. It has the most trouble with sites like sinfest which don't even have a distinct title tag for each strip.

At first, I wanted to share a link to a webcomic for a specific date, and proceeded to do what Just Works when I'm on Major Site. I was mildly dismayed by the appearance of additional boxes but figured something might get cleaned up in posting-production so left it as it lay.
For the next post (above), I acted as a naive user in attempting to use again the link to the page and then, when that WYSInotWYW, trying a link to the image only. Boxes popped up and I typed into them. The shifting right of my first character typed in one of those boxes pointed to another likely UI issue.
It still takes more work than a casual user of technology *who isn't going to look for functionality that isn't obvious when presented with WYSIWYG and limited icons to try* wants to expend to provide a link to content that is easily identified by many other web-based social services.
Facebook happens to get this one right by just displaying the correct image, which is impressive given the inscrutable markup - there's really no good way to know which image is the webcomic. Perhaps they remember which image people used to choose manually. Perhaps they scan for the largest image, which is a good idea for a webcomic.

I tried a some of other webcomics and got terrible results from Facebook (and also from OPW, of course). The worst are those that *do* provide opengraph tags but make them the same for every episode of the comic. Sigh.
 
 

Saw a truly good production of Hamlet today, at Hedgerow Theater. It made me have more sympathy for Laertes and Horatio than before. Horatio in this case is the deeply-friend-zoned would-be lover (played by a woman, an inspired choice).  And poor Laertes, the guy goes through all Hamlet's hell in less than an act. 

Got to see it with my favorite smart 12-year-old, and it was wonderful to experience it with him. 

I wish someone would make a cinematic first-person shooter of Hamlet. Seriously. 

I also wish (and I hate to say this, but I will) for a 25-year moratorium on Shakespeare.  I'd be willing to allow universities to do one Shakespeare play a season, but only if no white people are cast in the production. I love Shakespeare, but I think not enough other work gets a chance. I also think we need to let a generation roll over and see it with fresh eyes. 

that being said, it was a lovely show. 

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11/10 '14 1 Comment
That was the first production of Hamlet that I have seen that I actually enjoyed. I have always liked the text, but watching the play was often deadly - there is SO much said and so little action. Making Laertes and Horatio sympathetic, passionate and therefore interesting went a long way toward making the end of the show more emotionally impactful and less of a farcical festival of body-dropping. Also, Hamlet being over-the-top sarcastic when he was "crazy" made the show a lot funnier, at least to me. The sarcasm was a modern touch - humor has changed since Shakespeare wrote Hamlet, and this production caught up with the changes without altering the text. Well, they cut it, but they didn't rewrite it, I mean.
 

I've been a huge fan since I discovered his work in 1988. What has impressed me so much, recently, is the way little bits from his earlier work (phrases, ideas, images) keep popping up. As if the first time I saw them he was just planting them, and now they're mature. And as much as his work changes every decade or so, it still seems like a sharper and sharper iteration of his first stuff.


I'm imagining a writer who keeps going back in time, killing himself, and releasing better and better versions of his first novel.


Anyone is welcome to use that idea, if they want to make fiction based on it. No one is allowed to actually do it, please.

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11/10 '14 1 Comment
I just ordered his newest book. Can't wait to get it (on paper, cyberpunk dreams notwithstanding).