UnRage 6/19 '15
I get angry at the injustice in the world. At thoughtless people. At selfishness. At unmutual behaviour.
But I can't change people. I can't change the world. So all the anger just sits there and festers. "I'm always angry."
But constant anger is constant stress, and constant stress is very damaging. So I tamp it down. I say I don't care. I shrug it off.
But I can't seem to just diminish my response to anger. Everything else gets diminished, too. If I don't feel anger, I also don't feel joy, I don't feel love.
But that's depression. I have to choose between being angry or being depressed?
How to be authentic and in the moment and emotionally responsive without burning up?
How do people do this?
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It's so hard to change attitudes and responses- anger is such a natural reaction to so many things, but when the things are inescapable, the anger just builds on itself and hurts you instead which sucks.
It might be something to work on with a therapist, or you could maybe develop a sort of progressive way of trying to improve your natural reactions over time, giving yourself things to try when you're faced with situations that provoke anger.
I try to figure out what I can do, and what's enough. That's what I do, and then I'm done. Sometimes it's never enough, I know.