Hi! I am a queer, non-binary person whose pronouns are anything but "it", and who is also a mom married to a straight guy. No, I don't find any of this contradictory. It took me a long, strange trip to get here, and I am really quite zen about it. I am not fussed about misgendering (from my perspective, you pretty much can't misgender me), which in no way invalidates those who are. 

This has been your National Coming Out Day public service announcement.