We're reading Emotional Agility for a book club at work. While I have some of my usual self improvement book issues with it - primarily regularly the ability of an individual to dramatically change their external life through changing their internal self -> internal change and growth are great! and also trauma is real and other people have real effects on us. etc. etc. etc. - it has also given me some good things to ponder.

One of the sections, "Walking Your Why", delves into what your values are and keeping them front of mind when choosing your actions. I like to think that my values are pretty strong and clear, but it is also clear that I don't always have them front and center. The book lists a couple ways to get at what your values are: The usual list of questions ending with what if by some miracle all your anxiety and stress disappear, what does your life look like? and a journal exercise examining what you did that day that was worth your time. I stumbled across another method that I've been finding really useful - ask other people. P says the first family value of ours that comes to his mind is "being welcoming". S says one of mine must be "cooking".

So dear reader, what do you think my top values are? What are yours?

(I'll put my list-in-progress in comments)

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