So, let me tell you something about long term chronic pain. I haven't been cleared to speak for anyone else, although I bet I get some agreement, so anyway this my own POV, okay?

You feel reduced or even devoid of value. A lot. You know you aren't able to do everything you once could, and you know people can't see the cause but they surely can see that effect. And so you -- like everyone else -- hopefully do all you can, and find ways in which you can contribute, but you don't fail to notice how it doesn't fit what other people do and you wonder about expectations. And by wonder, I mean you beat yourself up and then get defensive.

I do what I can. I do it when I can and to the extent I can. I think I'm pretty damn helpful. If you don't, that's your thing, not mine. Or that's what I'm going to be telling myself. And if you're held back by a physical condition that's joined the opposition, please know that doing your best, whatever it may be, is pretty damn good, too.